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The fantasy bond is a type of relationship where the basic tie is based on routines and roles, rather than spontaneous feelings.〔Philippa Perry, ''Couch Fiction'' (2010) p. 139〕 It is a term used to describe an imaginary connection formed originally by the infant with the parent or primary caregiver, but also describes an illusory connection to another person that adults attempt to establish in their intimate associations, which leads to deterioration in the relationship. 〔http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-human-experience/200812/the-fantasy-bond-substitute-truly-loving-relationship〕 This type of bond is differentiated from the positive bonding that occurs in secure attachments. The fantasy bond offers an illusion of love which prevents real emotional contact, and can be linked to the pseudo-independence of the self-parenting character. 〔(Fantasy bond )〕 ==Origins== The origins of a fantasy bond can be found in the failures of childhood parenting, denial of which leads to an over-valuation and idealisation of the parent/parents in question.〔John Bradshaw, ''Healing The Shame That Binds You'' (2005) p. 104〕 The result can be a sense of grandiosity based on the internalisation of the parental value systems,〔Bradshaw, p. 69-70〕 an acceptance of the inner critic with its automatic thoughts〔Paul Gilbert, ''Overcoming Depression'' (1998) p. 68-9〕 as a substitute for real relating. Such over-idealisation of the past protects against the re-emergence of painful memories, but also ties into the perpetuation of current ersatz relationships〔Susie Orbach, ''The Impossibility of Sex'' (1999) p. 63 and p. 58〕 with only the object of idolatry changed in the new fantasy bond.〔Perry, p. 100〕 The fantasy bond acts as a painkiller that cuts off feeling responses and interferes with the development of a true sense of self, and the more a person comes to rely on fantasies of connection, the less he or she will seek or be able to accept love and affection in a real relationship. 〔Robert Firestone, Joyce Catlett "The Fantasy Bond: Structure of Psychological Defenses" (1987) p. 327〕 The fantasy bond is the primary defense against separation anxiety, interpersonal pain, and existential dread. 〔Robert Firestone "A concept of the primary fantasy bond: A developmental perspective." 〕 Infants naturally comfort themselves by using images and self-soothing behaviors to ease the anxiety of being separated from their caregivers, so when caregivers are often unavailable or inconsistent in meeting an infant's needs, the infant increasingly turns to an image of being connected to them. 〔Robert Firestone "A concept of the primary fantasy bond: A developmental perspective." 〕 This fantasy bond is a substitute for the love and care that may be missing. 抄文引用元・出典: フリー百科事典『 ウィキペディア（Wikipedia）』 ■ウィキペディアで「fantasy bond」の詳細全文を読む スポンサード リンク
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